It's a trap! But you don't know it yet



Adaption is gradual, and sometimes dangerous. When we adapt to situations that do not benefit us, we are losing control of our outcomes.


There is an old fable about putting a frog into water at room temperature. When initially placed into the water which is at room temperature, the frog frolics about and finds nothing wrong with his new environment. As the temperature of the water starts to increase, the frog will gradually adapt and still find nothing wrong. Even as the water reaches a temperature that will harm the frog, the frog will find itself adapting and eventually being boiled to death - unaware of its mistakes. Consider the contrasting theory. If you put a frog into boiling hot water right away, it will immediately start to jump about erratically and escaping. It knows danger at that point and has a glimmer of hope. Such are the situations that preside us in real life.


When we are given an unfavourable situation, we often force ourselves to adapt because the “danger” that we were facing is still within our threshold.That is also partially why many find themselves in toxic relationships despite having all the red flags show up. This applies to all of us in real-life relationships, and it extends itself into business relationships with our colleagues and bosses. This phenomenon eventually leads to the same outcome as the frog in the fable. We will adapt to the changing circumstances around us, adjusting our tolerance to deal with even greater problems unaware of the dangers that will eventually engulf us.


When we lurk around too long in problems that begets even larger ones, it will ultimately hurt our judgement and mental state and destroy us completely. If we do not have a sense of reality, or a certain paranoia to get us out, we will be rendered obsolete. This happens to a large majority of people and until now they might not realise it. You might be one of them.


If this gets you worried now, not all hope is lost.


The solution to this is simple. Rather than the preferred solution of adapting, it is best we tweak the way we adapt to better suit our needs. What this means is to think beyond the short-term. We need to see whether the long-term benefits outweigh the pain rather than just hoping that the circumstances would change. The thought of constantly escaping from the negative scenarios we find ourselves in might seem irrational, but squiggling out of certain situations might open better doors for you. Hence, sometimes we need to act counterintuitively to the rational. It is best to just change the methods we use to deal with the problem.


Grappling with dangerous situations and getting out of it victoriously is one thing. Adapting and counting it as a victory without knowing when it is fatal is another. There is more that needs to be done to maximise our potential.




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